What is healing?

I’ve found myself asking this question from time to time. In my own life, I see patterns coming up over and over again. With my husband, with my kids, with my friends. I think to myself, “I thought I healed from this pattern…”, just to find myself repeating it again. I become frustrated and spiral in a world of shame.

So, can someone truly be healed?

Many people I have met with over the years have come to me with this same question. With desperation in their voice, they recall all of the ways they believe they have failed. But, then I tell them…

The very fact that you’re aware of yourself and your patterns is proof that you are healing.

You see…healing does not equate to perfection. Healing does not mean that you will react to everything in the perfect way. Healing does not mean that you will not have emotions. Healing means you are growing.

The thing is, healing is the willingness to pull back the layers of your pain and to just keep trying. It’s the brave discovery of your patterns and the effort to make a shift. Not an earth-shattering shift, but a shift of a degree. That changes everything.

The tricky part is building up a tolerance. It takes a minuscule shift over and over and over again. It takes celebrating each small win because the small wins matter just as much as the big ones (in fact, they might matter even more).

You might be thinking, "That’s great, but how do I even begin the process?” I would be honored to be invited into the process. Healing doesn't have to be done alone. Scheduling a session is the first step.